C.S. Lewis was once asked, what is the difference between Christianity and the other religions? Lewis responded, "That's easy. It's 'grace'."
So it was a few days ago, when FOX news analyst Brit Hume suggested that adultery-plagued Tiger Woods would do better if he left his Buddhism and converted to Christianity.
We read: "Hume, speaking on Fox News Sunday, said he wants the beleaguered golfer to convert to Christianity because he believes Buddhism leaves no place for the "redemption" Tiger needs. "Whether he can recover as a person I think is a very open question, and it's a tragic situation with him," Hume said. "The extent to which he can recover seems to me depends on his faith," Hume continued. "He is said to be a Buddhist. I don't think that faith offers the kind of forgiveness and redemption that is offered by the Christian faith." Hume said his message to Tiger would be, "Tiger, turn to the Christian faith and you can make a total recovery and be a great example to the world.'""
Some Buddhists have responded negatively to Hume's advice.
Here are my thoughts.
- Woods is, arguably, not a serious Buddhist. If so, then we must conclude that serious Buddhism affirms the sex-addicted adulterous behavior of Woods that has devasted, perhaps totally ruined, his marriage and family. Since I do not think serious Buddhism applauds or encourages what Woods did, I conclude Woods is not really Buddhist or, at most, nominally so (which is the practical equivalent of non-Buddhist, just as "nominal Christian" is of "non-Christian").
- So - Woods is not a real Buddhist (I think).
- The question is - what could now help him? Here is where I find the Christian answer relevant and powerful, precisely because of the core Christian ideas of forgiveness, grace, and repentance. In saying this I'm not suggesting Woods leave Buddhism since, according to my Buddhist studies, his extramarital behavior is not within real Buddhism. Actually, Woods's behaviors illustrate the Buddhist response to why there is evil in the world; viz., because of human desire. (See The Four Noble Truths) But if Woods became an actual Buddhist and was on a path to nirvana (the "puffing out" or "extinguishing" of desire), then he might achieve freedom from desire but this would seem to do little in repairing his marriage and family. And if Buddhism in general does not teach forgiveness and grace then he might never personally feel cleansed.
- The Christian answers of forgiveness, grace, and redemption would make a difference to Woods, or anyone like him, should they embrace the Real Jesus and his teachings. I have personally seen many redemptive acts happen over the years. Indeed, I've already witnessed one or two of them today, as persons have shared with me their guilt and shame over past offenses committed against God and people they know and love. How can a person get past that? I'm with Brit Hume in saying, "Try Jesus."
"I have a problem that I don't know what to do about," she said.
"What is it?"
"See my little boy out there? My husband loves him deeply. But this boy is not my husband's son, and my husband does not know it. As the boy is growing older he is looking more and more like his real father. Some day soon I am certain my husband will wonder why his son does not look like him. I am afraid of what will then happen. What can I do?!"
I knew the answer, the only answer that made sense to me and still does make sense to me. Here is what I shared with her.
"If you embrace Jesus and allow Jesus to come to you and be the Captain of your life, you will understand what the Cross is all about and not only intellectually know about forgiveness, but experience forgiveness. God wants to forgive you, redeem you, and set you free."
OK. "But what," she asked, "about my husband?"
I answered: "If your husband also comes to know Jesus, understand his own deep personal need for forgiveness and inner cleansing, and then experiences the redemptive Cross-work of Jesus, he will also be able to forgive you. I have seen this happen many times."
Apart from this I know of no other answer that is so effective and powerful. I have seen people who hate and despise one another come together in love and forgiveness at the foot of the cross.
So if Tiger Woods and his wife Elin understood and embraced this, I'm thinking "just watch what miught happen now." It could be good, very good. Needed: humility and the breaking of pride. And Tiger would know that, in his sin that has destroyed so much, he's not anywhere as unique as the media makes him out to be. He's a slob like the rest of us, in need of forgivenness, redemption, sozo-ing.