Thursday, January 12, 2023

Lose Your Social Media and Gain Your Soul

Detroit (taken from Windsor, Ontario)

Thomas Merton wrote: "I am glad to be marginal. The best thing I can do for the "world" is to stay out of it - in so far as one can." (A Year with Thomas Merton: Daily Meditations from His Journals, K 5980-83)

Merton blended solitude (being alone with God) and community (being together with people). Being with others can be challenging. So can being alone with God. Both are needed to develop spiritually. Meaningful times in solitude are required to deepen our ability to love and be with others.

Being with ourselves is in some ways more challenging than being with others. This is why many cover up their inner life with unceasing busyness. This is why Henri Nouwen referred to solitude as "the furnace of spiritual transformation."

Get alone with God. Be in community. Get alone with God. Be in community. Getting alone with God, habitually, makes us better when we are with others. 

Few show us how to be alone with God. (Sherry Turkle's Reclaiming Conversation is brilliant on: be in solitude, be in conversation; be in solitude, be in conversation; and so, on and on.) We have not been taught how to be alone. Its value has not been demonstrated to us. Thus, we do not know how to be with others. American culture fails to train us for authentic community. 

How shall we do life together. Both Merton and Nouwen believed that authentic community is a function of aloneness with God. True God-aloneness morphs the heart into a community shape. Authentic community shapes our solitary times with God. And so, on and on, back and forth, there comes a dialectical movement that strengthens both self and community.

I find it encouraging that Merton never watched TV. I cannot say the same. Why not try, as an experiment, life without social media, if only for a few hours, or perhaps for a day? Merton did it for a lifetime. People traveled from all over the world to sit with him, be with him, and hear from him. And, to watch him listen to God.

Wisdom is different than information. Many are informed, few are deep and wise. You cannot gain wisdom by googling it. Wisdom cannot be known by a tweet. One needs a lifetime of aloneness with God, followed by community, in a dialectical movement. ("Dialectical" - back, and forth, and back, and forth, all the time moving forward. Such as: alone with God, with the Jesus-community, alone with God, with the Jesus-community, and so on.)

Merton was met by God as he met alone with God in stillness and in silence. This is the kind of Jesus-follower I need in my life; viz., someone who gains their soul by losing their cyberspace.

If this feels threatening, it's because we are still trying to find our life and place in culture. We fear being left out, and unrecognized. These fears reveal who we really belong to.

The reality is that you and I belong to a God who loves us so much that any of this world's acclaim is inglorious by comparison. This is our secure place.

This week I will spend much time in that secure, secret place, getting alone with God, and then being with others. I'll enter a private space, and then go public. I have found this to be wisdom, since...  

"All of humanity's problems stem from 
man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone."

Blaise Pascal