Some people, even Christians, find it difficult to stop blaming others for their current spiritual, emotional, and physical conditions. This behavior almost always makes things worse, for themselves, and for others. In our experience Linda and I often locate the root cause of the blamer in self-hatred, and a refusal to forgive.
I'm thinking again of the inmate at Marion (Ohio) State Correctional Center who asked me to pray for him because he could not forgive himself for killing his parents. One reason that request affected me so much is that I have, in some cases of my own moral and spiritual failure, felt unable to forgive myself. I meet many people plagued by the hell-designed incapacity to self-forgive.