|With some of Redeemer's leaders, praying|
One resource that has helped me understand how to help relationships is Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling: A Guide to Brief Therapy, by Everett Worthington. Linda and I believe that every troubled marriage can be saved. We believe this for two reasons: 1) We have seen many deeply troubled marriages rescued, repaired, restored, and renewed; and 2) We believe in a God whose omni-abilities resource those who love him.
Worthington encourages us in this. He writes:
"The common cultural wisdom is that the couple who fusses, fights and feels unhappy in their marriage is better off separating and divorcing. We often hear that this choice is better for the individuals, better for the kids. Not always true." (p. xvii)
Research shows that: