Linda and I attended our first HSRM summer conference.
Jack Hayford was the main speaker.
In one of his messages, Jack told a story about himself. God was correcting him. God told him, "Jack, why are you trying so hard to change other people, when you can't even change yourself?"
With these words, God spoke to me, and said, "John, why are you trying so hard to change other people, when you can't even change yourself?"
The person who spends their time criticizing others lives in a dark spiritual world. They are like the Pharisee, who prayed like this: "I thank you, God, that I am not like other people—cheaters, sinners, adulterers. I’m certainly not like that tax collector!" (Luke 18:11)
Thomas Merton writes:
"Nothing is more suspicious, in a man who seems holy, than an impatient desire to reform other men. Pay as little attention as you can to the faults of other people and none at all to their natural defects and eccentricities." (New Seeds of Contemplation)
What, then, shall we do? How shall we live? The answer is: be changed yourself. Dallas Willard writes: