Wednesday, May 15, 2019

Parents - The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Children

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(Wyandotte, Michigan)
The greatest gift parents can give their children is a committed, faithful, loving marriage. The article in this week's Time magazine supports this - "Why You Shouldn't Love Your Kids More Than Your Partner."

From the article:

  • One of the weirdest things parents do is love their children more than they love their marital partner.
  • "Research strongly suggests that children whose parents love each other are much happier and more secure than those raised in a loveless environment. They have a model of not just what a relationship looks like but also of how people should treat each other."
  • "Mishandled tensions between a couple tend to spill over into parents’ interactions with their kids, especially for fathers. Children whose parents are often hostile to each other blame themselves for the fighting and do worse at school, other research has found."
  • "This is for parents who stay together; the outcomes for kids of divorce–even in the days of conscious uncoupling–are, generally, darker. One of the best things you can do for your kids is love the heck out of your spouse."
  • "Remember that the kids are not the reason you got together; they’re a very absorbing project you have undertaken with each other, like a three-dimensional, moving jigsaw puzzle that talks back and leaves its underwear in the bathroom. You don’t want to focus on it so much that you can no longer figure out each other."