A Resource for Struggling Marriages - for only $1.99

Dr. Gary Chapman (author of The 5 Love Languages) has written a book for troubled marriages - One More Try: What to Do When Your Marriage Is Falling Apart.

It's on sale as a Kindle book for only $1.99.

Other Chapman books for $1.99 are...

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married (Linda and I have recommended this book to many couples.)

The Marriage You've Always Wanted

God's Love is Pure Because It Needs Nothing

Two of the pastors who attended my pastors retreat in Eldoret, kenya

I am praying to love as God loves. I would not be praying like this if I already loved as God loves.

I am familiar with the Scriptures. I read the many stories of the love of God. I may be a fool, but at least I can see the great abyss between whatever love I have and the love of God.

God's love is not like ours.

This is, from one perspective, good. If God's love was like ours, then God would be reduced to the lowest common denomination of love. God's love would be a single penny. God's love would have little to give. 

If God's love was like ours, then God would be escorted off the throne where he reigns over the cosmos, and take a seat in the recliner, ruling over the remote control.

It is good that God's love is not like ours. It is not good that our love is not like God's.

God's love is unpossessive. God's love is pure because it needs nothing. (See Thomas Merton, A Book of Hours, 118)

You can only love when you do not need. Because need grasps, so that it may possess. Love holds things and people lightly, and holds onto God tightly.

True love holds, without owning. God's love does not control or demand our reciprocity. God's love waits. Only the unpossessive can wait. Only those who wait are free to love. True love waits for a response.

I am praying for a love like this to find its home in my heart.

Testimonies of Thankfulness

Worship at Redeemer

Scripture repeatedly instructs us to cultivate a heart of gratitude to God for who he is and what he has done. 

In 2 Chronicles 5:13 we read this typical story.

The trumpeters and musicians joined in unison to give praise and thanks to the Lord. Accompanied by trumpets, cymbals and other instruments, the singers raised their voices in praise to the Lord and sang: “He is good; his love endures forever.” Then the temple of the Lord was filled with the cloud.

What are you thankful to God for? Write it up and send it to me at: johnpiippo@msn.com.

It is good to give thanks to the Lord! If you have a testimony of thankfulness you would like to share with me I will post it on my blog on Saturday.


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No longer than a paragraph - 150 words or less please.

I will use your full name.

I will edit your submission, as needed.  :)

A Byproduct of Contentment Is Economic Ruin

Woods cross from my house, Munson Park

The pursuit of happiness will leave you perpetually unsatiated. That is its goal.

In America this is especially true, since we have a consumer-driven economy. For our country to stay afloat, people must continually purchase. Spending must increase. As we approach Christmas, sales must be up (which, of course, has nothing to do with the real Christmas).

Products are marketed in terms of the amount of happiness they will produce. (See, e.g., The Happiness Industry: How the Government and Big Business Sold Us Well-Being.) The irony is that these products must ultimately produce discontent, so that we want more, or something different, something newer. The economic cycle is never-ending: happy, discontent; happy, discontent; and so on ad infinitum. Wealthy is the nation whose people are unhappy.

Thomas Merton, writing prior to 1966, said:

"If we are fools enough to remain at the mercy of the people who want to sell us happiness, it will be impossible for us ever to be content with anything. How would they profit if we became content? We would no longer need their new product. The last thing the salesman wants is for the buyer to become content. You are of no use in our affluent society unless you are always just about the grasp what you never have." (Merton, Conjectures of a Guilty Bystander; in Through the Year With Thomas Merton, 198)

The teachings of Jesus and the apostle Paul are bad news for our economy. If the poor became blessed, and Jesus' followers acquired contentment in all circumstances, and knowing Christ became life's greatest thing, then today's money-changers would have their laptops overturned. 

The economic wheel would grind to a halt, and read: blessed, content.

Blessed Are the Free People Who Love

Oak tree, in my back yard

Blessed is the man or woman who does not kneel before the secular media.

Those who ignore the trolling twitter are educated.

Healthy are people who do not take on the offenses of others.

Blessed are all who don't play games in the Stadium of Sin.

Discerning is the person who does not travel on Sinners Highway.

Wise are those who say "No" to temptation, for they shall be called free.

Stable are the ones who don't regress.

Mature are the free people who do not...

slander

gossip

pass on offenses

degrade

insult

denigrate

demean

despise

ridicule

quid pro quo

seek revenge

hate

tear down

sit in the mocking seat.

Blessed is the man 

who does not walk in the counsel of 

the wicked 

or stand in the way of sinners 

or sit in the seat of mockers.

Psalm 1:1

Blessed are the free people who love.

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My new book is: Praying: Reflections on 40 Years of Solitary Conversations with God.

I'm now writing Leading the Presence-Driven Church, to be published in late Spring, 2017.

In Prayer, Be Fully Transparent To God

I did NOT take this cool photo.

The best spiritual place to be with God is in an attitude of full transparency. God knows what's in you anyway, so why not bare it all?

But why reveal anything at all, from our end, if God already knows us fully, inside and out? The answer is: the God-thing is about a relationship, not a ritual. God loves you, and wants you to trust His love. Relationship requires response. That's you and me.

The good parent knows a lot about their children. Their children do not realize this. If the child steals something, the most fruitful spiritual response will be for the child to come forth on their own instead of being exposed by their parents. Even if the parent already knows. 

The parent wants the child to trust them. In a similar way, God desires us to bring our entire selves before Him. In this way we learn to trust that God will always be truthful and loving towards us, and has His best interests in mind when it comes to us.

When it comes to other people, voluntary vulnerability is our response. We cannot be fully transparent before most people, because they are not God. We cannot trust that their response to us will be loving and truthful. For me, there's only a handful of people in my life that I can be entirely open before. The first among these is Linda. The qualities in her that allow me to trust her with my deepest self are:

• I know she loves me
• She never condemns me
• She's not out to "get me"
• She never tries to control me
• She is forgiving (because she, like me, has been forgiven much)
• She speaks truthfully to me (no game-playing or manipulating)
• She champions my spiritual being - she wants Christ to be more deeply formed in me

I discovered this in her forty-three years ago. If she has changed it's that she's gotten better at this.

But my wife is not God. God is a lot better than she is, and than I am. For all who cry out to God for "more" of Him, this will involve laying all of you before Him. You will discover that God is...

•  always good
• loves you
• is not out to "get you"
• will not control you
• is forgiving
• speaks truthfully to you
• champions your spiritual transformation into Christlikeness

Prayer and Tearing Down Spiritual Strongholds

One Sunday morning at Redeemer God was moving and changing the direction of our service from the beginning. In the middle of worship there was a call to come forward and receive prayer for tearing down inner spiritual strongholds. Many people came forward and were released from the lies of the enemy.

We find the "spiritual stronghold" idea in 2 Corinthians 10:3-5:

3 For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. 4 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

A "spiritual stronghold" is an "argument," a "pretender" that builds itself "against the knowledge of God." Spiritual strongholds are fortresses made of pretense-thoughts that need to be torn down, lest our souls become captive to their lies.

Some examples of pretender-strongholds include:

·         Cares of the world
·         Anxiety
·         Unforgiveness
·         Bitterness
·         Grief (lasting)
·         Instability (emotions rule; the emotional rollercoaster)
·         Accusations (the “accuser of the brethren”)
·         Condemnation
·         Sin and patterns of sin


As I look at this list I realize I have battled everything on it. One of the weapons I have to demolish strongholds is praying.[1] In praying I take these thoughts captive, such as "I am a failure in God's eyes," or "God could never love someone like me." These are pretenders to the throne. They have no place in the fortress of God. I must remember that I am a temple of the Holy Spirit, and God's Spirit will never speak like this to a follower of Jesus.

I am praying for truth to defeat lies.

I’m asking God to:

• Make me anxious for nothing
• Give me his heart of forgiveness
• Uproot any bitterness within me
• Give me a heart of thankfulness
• Heal my hurting, wounded heart
• Have his truth, not my emotions, rule my heart
• Free me from self-condemnation
• Defeat sin in me once and for all

I write these prayers down on a list and carry them with me. I pray them, repetitively. I pray the Big Truth, which is: God loves me. As the Big Truth descends from my intellect to my heart it overwhelms the lies that threaten my status in Christ.

I pray this way a lot. While it's true that God can remove things once and for all, it is also true that I am in a spiritual battle, and the enemy of my soul does not let up.

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[1] See Ephesians 6:18

The Bondage of Novelty and the Double Loss of Freedom

Leafless tree in Monroe

In The Hunger Games, it appears that the citizens of District 12, to include Katniss Everdeen, are not free, while the citizens in the Capital who rule over District 12 are free. This appearance would be false. Robert Joustra explains,

"Everyone in Panem has lost their freedom, whether through tyrannical suppression in the outer districts or the bondage of novelty and hedonism in the Capital. The same regime causes both, and this is what [Charles] Taylor calls the “double loss of freedom.” It’s two sides of the same coin, foretold by both Orwell (1984) and Huxley (Brave New World). (Robert Joustra and Alissa Wilkinson, How to Survive the Apocalypse: Zombies, Cylons, Faith, and Politics at the End of the World, p. 7)

Whether it is a nation, whether it is a marriage, wherever there is oppression both the oppressor and the oppressed are in bondage. Thus, we are not to be deceived by the illusion of freedom cast by "happy" oppressors. The oppressors themselves are not free, they just don't know it.

(See Charles Taylor, The Malaise of Modernity.)

The Election Is Over - Maintaining a God-perspective

Linda (above) and her sister Lora - praying.

If you are a follower of Jesus you should view yesterday's election through the lens of the Christian narrative. 

You won't get this from the media. 

Do not enframe political events through the secular media. 

Do not allow this world's mold to shape you. (Romans 12:1-2)

Spiritually, nothing changes. Maintain a God-perspective, and live and pray from there. Be a thermostat, not a thermometer.

Continue focusing on abiding in Christ, as you were doing before the election.

View life through Scriptures such as these. 

PREACHING – the DEEPER ISSUES and a few smaller matters

Jerusalem

1.   Spend much time alone with God.

a.   Real authority comes from a person who knows Christ.

2.   The goal is formation into Christlikeness, not becoming a great preacher.

3.   Let go of the need to be liked.

a.   The basic question in not “How am I doing?”

b.   It's not my well-being or sense of value that is on the line.

c. This is not about you being "relevant" or cool.

4.   Keep on being changed yourself.

a.   Remember: you can’t change other people.

b.   Never preach towards a specific person or persons. Preach the text. Let God instruct or convict people.

5.   Forgive others for what they have done to you.

a.   If you are a hurting person you could hurt others in your preaching.

6.   Confess to others and ask for forgiveness, as needed.

7.   Be led by the Holy Spirit.

8.   Prepare all your life for the next sermon.

a.   You don’t turn on preaching like flipping a switch.

b.   A sermon will be the overflow of who you have become as a person.

9.   Be mastered by the biblical text.

a.   Authentic, authoritative preaching is not about mastering certain techniques; it is about being mastered by certain convictions.

10.     Find your own voice.

a.   Stop trying to be someone else and let God use you.

11.     Preach with authority.

a.   Speak assertively.

b.   Articulate your words clearly.

c.   Project your voice.

d.   If people can’t hear or understand you it’s a waste of time.

12.     Preach like it’s the last message you’ll ever give.

See also: 

Some Thoughts on Teaching, Preaching, & Life

How I Prepare for a Sermon