|Maumee Bay State Park, Ohio
It is better not to make a vow
than to make one and not fulfill it.
We've all made a commitment that we have not followed through on. I have. Some do this habitually. The result is they become unbelievable.
If you make a commitment, follow through on it. To commit without follow through means nothing, creates distrust, and is a sign of entitlement if you defend your inaction.
Don't assume people will understand and grade you on a curve. John Townsend writes:
"This belief system says:
• I’m a good person and I have good intentions.
• I try my best.
• People will see that I am trying.
• I give people a break and they should do the same with me."
"This is understandable. We should be understanding and recognize that people have good hearts and are trying hard. But at the heart of this belief system lies a much darker and unhealthy assumption: I am entitled to be judged on my intentions and not my actions. This quickly becomes a demand that no one hold me accountable for the fruit of my behaviors. It’s entitlement speaking once again, and it’s bad for everyone."
- John Townsend, The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way, pp. 184-185)