Tuesday, August 21, 2018

Marriage Counseling Material

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A friend asked this question: "Do you have any marriage counseling material that you can share with me?"

Here are some things we recommend. 



ONLINE RESOURCES


I use the FOCCUS materials for marital and premarital counseling. 


startmarriageright.com - This is Gary Chapman's excellent website.




BOOKS


Things I Wish I'd Known Before I Got Married, by Gary Chapman

Linda and I read this after almost 40 years of marriage and still enjoyed it.

One More Try: What to Do When Your Marriage is Falling Apart, by Gary Chapman. For anyone who has given up on their marriage.

Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away; Real Help for Desperate Hearts in Difficult Marriages, by Gary Chapman.

Real Relationships: From Bad to Better and Good to Great, by Les and Leslie Parrott

Marital and premarital couples will benefit from this excellent book.

Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling: A Guide to Brief Therapy, by Everett Worthington   

Linda and are reading this book together. It's more academic, and for marital counselors. Very good!

Torn Asunder: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair, by Dave Carder

This is the book Linda and I recommend for people who have experienced this.

Caring enough to Confront: How to Understand and Express Your Deepest Feelings Toward Others, by David Augsburger

Linda and I have used this book so much in marital and relationship counseling that we should be getting royalties from it. On how to communicate in the midst of conflict.

The Forgiving Life: A Pathway to Overcoming Resentment and Creating a Legacy of Love, by Robert Enright

For Linda and I the key to a healthy marriage is: confession and forgiveness. In this book University of Wisconsin psychologist Enright shows us the relational power of forgiveness, in stories and empirical research.

The Mystery of Marriage, by Mike Mason

The most beautiful exaltation of marriage ever written?

I Married You, and I Loved a Girl, by Walter Trobisch
These two beautiful books were recommended to Linda and I before we got married.



LINKS TO THINGS I'VE WRITTEN


Your Marriage Can Be Saved (Especially for Husbands)


A Wedding Is a Welding


How to Save Your Failing Marriage


28 Danger Signs for the Not Yet Married


Dealing With Anger In Relationships


Using Logic to Manage Anger in Relationships


Your Marriage Represents Christ and the Church


Want to Be Married? Prepare for Conflict!