We all need affirmation, as well as realistic evaluation. But there is a disease called affirmation addiction, and it is punishing to the soul. The affirmation addict goes up and down, emotionally, with the approval and disapproval of people.
Are you disturbed when someone dismisses you or assaults you on social media? When you get a "thumbs down?" The source of your disturbance is addiction to affirmation. If you did not live for the approval of other people, you would not die by their disapproval of you. You have to choose whose acceptance you will live and die for. (I am writing this as much for myself as for anyone else.)
Bob Sorge says, "Jesus was not touched by the praise of man, so he was not wounded by the rejection of man." (See here.) This is from John 5:44, where Jesus faces his followers and says, How can you believe since you accept glory from one another but do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?
Jesus refused to receive the approval of humanity. He didn't rise and fall by what other people thought of him. Instead, he lived and died by the Father's approval, and thus was free to live and die for you and me.
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